Usually, I write for people becoming distressed over their marriage. Recently, though, I have had an unusual number of comments from folks blindsided by a spouse who wants out. In this post and the one to follow, I tackle the question of how to avoid being blindsided.
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She has unmet needs she expects you to meet and you're giving them and her the cold shoulder.
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Anger and resentment are the culprits in most of these. If they lead to withdrawal, don't mistake this for an improvement. Deal with them head-on and you can find your way back to "in-love" with almost any wife who loves you.
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I agree that we should look at ourselves each and every day to make sure we are giving our spouse our best and thinking of them first but most often then not it's the one who's pretty soon looking to get their leaving ticket punched that is the one that needs to read this list and for those of you who just got left or who tonjght coming up to that I get it it, in a lot of marriages you are the one that does care.
Anonymous August 11, I agree those thinking of leaving for whom Tonighh usually write also ought to read the list, Anonymous, but I don't see this list as the spouse who is willing to stay taking most of the blame.
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They are staying together but feel hopeless about having a happier life. I doubt knowledge of how to manage money would help them, Susan.
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Patty Newbold August 11, 3: Thanks for offering such great solutions. They will hopefully help prevent husbands from being blindsided by a wife's declaration that she wants out.
Prevention cannot be overstated when it comes to a good marriage. I really love how you offer several solutions based on specific concerns, Patty.
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If you like, you could end this discussion with an invitation to join you in one her favorite activities: Even if she turns you down, an invitation at a time when she feels cared for and understood will have a positive effect. It might also raise the bar for the other man she's talking to. And although you make no mention of it and it probably does not apply to seekong, if you have ever neglected her or hurt her because of your drinking or drug use, get help getting clean seekihg now, before she's made Housewives looking real sex Acosta decision final.
Patty Newbold September 6, 8: I have been married 32 years. Less than halfway I discovered I fell out of love with him. I still love and care for him. He is the see,ing of our children. I searched God's answers for years. I even performed sex when it disgusted me. I tried for 30 years to maintain and support him, our family and home.
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My husband does not work and hasn't in almost a dozen years. I can't account for his time when I've been at work all day. Appears he sleeps, reads, walks the great outdoor enoying the nature, animals and his majority time spent listening to music and playing the guitar of which he is gifted.
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I've been waiting for finances of other joint property we are selling. I wish for him to keep the family home and I purchase another home of my own. How do I make wive understand and remain friends? Our relationship is not healthy for me. Our children are grown having children of their own.
Now, since my confession and acceptance of our relationship issues for well over two years now, I've discovered an interest Marrried bond of love with another man and don't want to loose the chance of his love. From a Vsughan of a woman saying exactly what this thread does, being her, I hope too, your support. Thanks for listening and your feedback.
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