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Many of us have been there, and if you haven't, a friend certainly has.

The feelings associated are usually quite a whirlwind: Anyone with a good head on their shoulders can understand why sleeping with a former partner sounds like a pretty bad idea—clearly it can clog up the moving-on process, it can stir up painful memories and longing for something that's gone, wth worst of all, it can give one of the parties false hope for a reunion that's not shared by the other.

There's so much risk for further heartache that most sensible people instinctively advise guioty these encounters, and when they happen, the instinct is to look down on them.

But a new study on these forbidden affairs suggests we might be overthinking them. They might even, in fact, have some benefits for people recovering from a breakup.

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Researchers asked people who'd just split up with their partner to keep a daily diary about their feelings and actions toward their ex for nearly a month following the breakup. They reported their emotional attachment to their ex, their amount of distress related to the Cknfused, intrusive thoughts about the past relationship during the day, general negative and positive emotions, and any contact they'd had with their ex.

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A month later, after this part of the Confused and feeling guilty over sex with the ex, the researchers checked up on the participants one more time to ask how emotionally attached they still felt to their ex, who Cobfused broken up with at least two months guulty by then.

People who'd slept with their exes did report being more emotionally attached to them, but that attachment had no relationship to the amount of breakup distress, intrusive thoughts, or negative emotions they had daily.

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On the day-to-day and after two months, having had sex with their ex had no meaningful effect on their overall breakup recovery. In fact, these people actually saw a bump in positive emotions in the days following the sexual episode.

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The study wasn't designed to explain what's motivating people to get ferling with their former partners, nor could it directly say why people felt good after doing Sex personals Turbotville. People who still yearned for their former partners were the most likely to attempt to have sex with their exes, suggesting the desire to feel close and connected again might be at the heart of their actions.

The study authors had hypothesized that the need for connection might clash with their simultaneous need for closure to the relationship—another possible reason for wanting a post-breakup tryst. But considering the findings, it's possible that these two needs are not simultaneously being pursued for any given sexual encounter.

For these individuals, satisfying connectedness goals thee pursuing sexual activity with an ex-partner may be a globally positive experience.

One former study conducted in might support this hypothesis: Researchers found feeeling recently divorced people having the most difficulty accepting the end of their marriage showed better "psychological adjustment" when they kept having sex with their former spouse, compared to Confuses who didn't. And for those divorcees who were able to accept the split more easily, there wasn't any difference between those sleeping with their ex-spouse and those who weren't as far as how well they were adjusting to post-divorce life.

So Dirty nudist dating that mean sleeping with your exes is actually good for you? The authors of the present te don't go so far as to say that, but they do believe these findings call into question a lot of the squeamish discomfort and judgment many people have around ex sex.

The take-away might simply be this: The heart has desires, and trying to dictate what you "should" desire is a pretty fruitless endeavor. People who end up sleeping with a former partner don't need to panic or let themselves be consumed with shame—and they definitely don't need to assume this means they won't be able to move on properly now.

Exercising self-awareness and mindfulness can help fx navigate these tricky breakup situations: Figure out why you're sleeping with your ex, and get radically honest with yourself about whether your needs will actually be met this way. Don't judge whatever the answer is. And just make sure you're also elevating compassion toward your former lover, now more than ever.

Now it’s time to dig in deeper into the subject of using Radio Silence on your ex boyfriend. If you want to use the no contact rule to get your ex back then there are really seven key things that you need to . responses on "Feeling Nothing During Grief: The disorienting experience of emotional numbness". Here's how a lot of my clients got their ex back and you can too STEP 1 – Stop Screwing Up Your Chances with Neediness, Insecurity and Desperation by Avoiding These Deadly Mistakes STEP 2 – Stop Contact with Your Ex. Give Yourself Some Time and Space and Give Your Ex What They Asked For. A Breakup. STEP 3 – During No Contact, Strive to Become a Person You Can Be Proud Of.

Will this encounter serve them and their needs as well? Act with kindness in all circumstances—both to them and to yourself. Functional medicine expert Will Cole tells all in his exclusive webinar.

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